Do you have a situation(s) in your life you’d like to change? The past several months have found me wrestling and wrangling with circumstances in my life I wanted to learn how to approach differently. I simply couldn’t find a way to do it, until recently. About a week ago, I came up with an idea I thought may help. I would try to be with these situations differently; and, I would try to allow them.
My first attempts in handling these aspects of my life were to work on changing my reactions to them. While not altogether a bad idea, I wasn’t making any headway. It became a battle. Perhaps I developed an expectation that I had to alter my responses. I don’t know. But, I subscribe to Aristotle’s theory “we are what we repeatedly do.” So, my thinking was if I could modify my responses to these circumstances, I’d step off of the circular mental train track I was on. Even though I would find myself back on the same track at times, once I had the opportunity to get off the track, I was pretty confident I could do it more and more often. Yet, something about it wasn’t a fit for me with these situations.
One morning while doing household tasks, I had a feeling. Not a thought, but a feeling that I could be with these aspects of my life differently. I could allow them. I could allow them to be as they are. In doing so, my presence around each circumstance changed. (If that makes sense.) With this change, I was afforded the opportunity of approaching the situations with less emotion. In turn, equipping myself to more readily allow them.
I can’t emphasize enough the significance around my changed presence in each situation. For me, that seemed to be a key. Not for solving a problem or fixing it, but for being with it.
Possibly this led to a change in reaction as well? I don’t think it did. My reactions, although softened, are about the same. But in modifying my presence around each circumstance, I’ve been granted space. Breathing room.
Approaching and allowing the situations rather than changing my reactions reminds me of the difference between a Meyer lemon and a regular lemon. While both are lemons, the Meyer lemon is sweeter and less acidic than a standard lemon. It has less bite. Less zing. In like manner, I noticed less bite and zing when approaching each situation and allowing it.
- I medium butternut squash, cubed and *roasted at 350 degrees until softened and lightly browned, about 35 – 40 minutes
- 1 c. or so white or red quinoa, or combo, cooked, set aside
- 1 14 oz. can garbanzo beans, drained, rinsed, set aside
- 1/2 med. yellow or sweet onion, diced, sautéed in large skillet with coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil and large pinch salt
- 2 t. curry powder
- 1 t. each, turmeric and coriander
- 1/2 c. or so full fat or lite coconut milk
- 2 – 3 c. baby spinach, rinsed and drained
- salt to taste
- Once squash and quinoa are prepared and the onion has softened, add beans and spices to the skillet. Bloom the spices by allowing them to heat while stirring constantly, about 1- 2 minutes.
- Add the coconut milk and the spinach, stir to combine, put the lid on and steam the spinach over medium heat to medium low heat until it wilts, about 3 – 5 minutes.
- After the spinach is wilted, stir in the amounts of quinoa and squash you’d prefer. Adjust with more coconut milk if necessary. Salt to taste. Warm through and serve.
Cook’s Notes: Many cooks prefer full-fat coconut milk for the flavor and texture. Although I do use it, sometimes it tends to be a bit too heavy for me. I found in this recipe the light coconut milk lends enough of a subtle coconut flavor so the full-fat is not needed. It is purely preference.
Roasted Squash: Remove the tough outer skin of the squash by halving the squash. Then, with two shorter pieces to work with, slice off the bulb of each piece where it narrows resulting in a stable cutting surface. Next, cut straight down the side of the squash with your hand on the top of the vegetable stabilizing it. Scrape out the seeds as necessary. Cut the vegetable into bite-size cubes. On a large baking sheet, toss the squash with salt, pepper and extra virgin olive oil. Spread into an even layer. Roast at 350 degrees for 35- 40 minutes until the squash is soft and barely beginning to brown.